I Became Who I Needed
What I Do
Organization was my first love. Years ago, I was on track to
building an organizational company that would empower others to maintain
organizational health. Still, I had not yet realized the inner work I needed to
invest in before making that leap. At
that time, nothing worked out. I stopped before I could start, and life became
a vicious cycle of disappointments. With every setback, I was sinking deeper
and deeper into a pit of despair. Soon I gave up hope in myself and focused on
helping others walk out their desires. No one could fathom the state of my
emotions. I learned how to pretend, and eventually, I lost sight of what was
real and what was an act. My healing journey started years ago. I did not share
with many what was going on with me. I did not need anyone negating the decisions
I made for my life, so I chose to go at this with only the support of my
daughter, therapist, and life coach. Yes, I have a therapist and life coach.
What we do for a living does not mean we will not experience setbacks in those
areas.
Why I Do It
I have always loved helping people. I thought about things
differently, although I suppressed my way of thinking most of the time. Pain
for me started in my childhood. I experienced developmental arrest at school
and in the home. Every day I am grateful to be alive as I have attempted to eliminate
what seemed to be everyone's problem, me. My healing journey started with investing in
courses. Those courses opened up a new world to me. Finally, I was articulate my
thoughts and dreams without minimization. It was beautiful. As those fragmentations began to become whole,
who I am, and my life's purpose became more transparent. All of the emotional
catastrophes I experienced, the damaging mindset I carried, and my inability to
go forth in life at that time would eventually play a significant role in what
I do now. I became my self-study. I
stopped calling people who only made me feel worse, focused on my therapist and
coach's tools, and healed myself. Every
step of the way, I documented findings, and I changed my outlook on situations.
My passion grew in the area so much so;
I knew I could help others willing.
The Process of Becoming What I Do
So, I invested in courses that aligned with my desires. I
certified as a Life Coach, became a contributing author in an anthology to get
my story out there, and I certified as a Belief Therapist at Therapon Institute.
Since then, I have added more value to myself and my brand by continuing in my
learning. I chose to disconnect from ways of thinking that were not serving me to
become for others what I needed. It was
all about being who I needed. I needed love, support, and cultivation. I needed
someone to believe in me as a child. I wanted someone to be proud of me enough to
help me get where I desired to go. I did not have that, so I became that. I am not exempt from challenges; I am just
better prepared to handle them. The mindset plays a huge role in the outcomes
we have in life. Working on the mind and restructuring the brain is a continual
effort where investing is needed. If it took 20 years to wire in toxic thinking,
then allow yourself patience when wiring it out. Breaking unhealthy habits
requires intentional work. Not sometimes, all the time. As I write this, I am currently reading Dr.
Leaf's book Switch on Your Brain for the third time. This book is one of the
tools provided to me that changed my life. I also use it in my coaching practice.
You Owe it To Yourself
You deserve everything you desire. Do the inner work, invest
where necessary, and embrace the life you want. Predispositions are not your
portion. You do not have to walk the path family members did. The choice is
yours. Your thoughts, choices, and actions all make the difference in creating
the world you desire. If you need organization and time management help, look
no further. If accountability is the missing link, I offer that too. Many
coaches are in place to be of service. Coaches are the missing link between
goals and accomplishments, so invest in the area you struggle in first. Coaches
have coaches, so if this is an area you desire to operate in, go for it. Coaching
is on the rise, and opportunities to expand your network are increasing. Your
past will not hold you back anymore. Use past experiences to link the chain
that will pull others out of the quicksand.
Thank you for reading my article. Please share with others
who may be struggling with establishing their WHY. I understand sometimes we
need activation, and this article may help with unlocking thoughts and processes
someone may not articulate well. If you or someone you know is interested in
starting a blog, please reach out to me for coaching. It is a simple process,
and you can begin immediately once made knowledge.
SOLO Coaching & Consulting LLC
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