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The Roots We Don’t Talk About

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There’s a mother of seven who often comes across my timeline. I don’t engage with her content. It isn’t what I seek out, and I’m not the type to leave harsh comments or critique strangers online. When something doesn’t resonate, I scroll quickly, so the algorithm learns and moves on. But her content kept returning. Eventually, I paused on a video of her cleaning. In it, she spoke about the condition of her home and attributed it to raising seven children. The word condition made me stop. So I looked more deeply, not to judge but to understand. What I noticed was that the conditions she referenced weren’t occasional. They were frequent. And while I immediately saw a lack of structure, I also knew that wasn’t the real conversation. The real concern wasn’t the home. It was the foundation. Because the foundation we lay today is the one our children build on tomorrow. As I continued observing, I learned she was a teen mom. That added context. My first thought was that perhaps she was grow...
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If Nothing Were Holding Me Back, I Would…

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If nothing were holding me back, I would… The sentence feels simple. Almost harmless. But when I sit with it, I notice how quickly my mind tries to interrupt. How fast it wants to qualify, soften, explain, or protect me from my own honesty. Be realistic. That’s not practical. You can’t just do that. And that’s when I realize something is holding me back. Not always fear. Sometimes responsibility. Sometimes loyalty. Sometimes, old versions of myself that learned to survive before they learned to expand. When I first asked myself this question, my answer didn’t arrive fully formed. It came in fragments. Images. Sensations. A tightness in my chest. A pull toward something unnamed. And that felt important. Because this question isn’t about immediate action. It’s about permission. Permission to name desire without consequence. Permission to imagine without commitment. Permission to speak what has been waiting quietly beneath logic. So before you rush to answer, pause. Take a breath. Noti...
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Just Beyond Your Comfort Zone

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I recently read my natal chart and learned more about my seventh house, the house of relationships, partnerships, and the potential meeting of my soulmate. What stood out wasn’t romance. It was geography. The interpretation suggested I may find love outside of my city. Outside of my state. Possibly outside of my race, my usual environment, my familiar spaces. And immediately, I paused. Because if that’s true, then love isn’t just about alignment, it’s about expansion. It made me look at my life under a microscope. The places I frequent. The rooms I feel safe in. The routines I’ve mastered. The types of people I naturally choose. What if what I desire is sitting just beyond what feels comfortable? And then I realized this isn’t just about relationships. It’s about comfort zones in general. What Is a Comfort Zone, Really? A comfort zone isn’t always dramatic. It isn’t always fear-based. Sometimes it’s subtle. Sometimes it looks responsible. Sometimes it looks practical. Comfort zones can...
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